You know exactly how this goes.
Boy meets girl. Girl falls in love with what she is presented. Boy falls in love as much as he can. Girl and boy move in together. Girl starts to do more at home. She does all of the cooking and cleaning. Boy starts to use more harsh language. Girl resolves to do better because after all she is in love with boy. Boy starts to dictate what girl wears. Girl presents outfits for approval before leaving the house. Boy starts to tell girl who she can and can’t see. Girl asks permission before making plans. Boy turns up to places when girl goes out on allowed outings and watches her to make sure she doesn’t do anything he doesn’t like. Boy compares girl to any other woman that he sees and tells her how they are better and how he is only with her because no one else would. Girl starts to apologize. More and more. Girl changes how she behaves during nights out to appease boy. Boy tells girl to sleep on the sofa when he is away and checks to make sure that she does. Boy drinks and shouts at girl. Girl thinks it must all be her fault because that is what she is being told even though she only had one beer. Girl stops drinking. Girl doesn’t tell boy. Girl leaves when boy starts drinking and will cycle or walk around the city for hours until boy is asleep. Boy continues drinking and becoming angry. Boy likes to list areas in which girl is shit and then begins on subsections. Girl realizes that it is not her fault but can’t leave. Boy makes girl sleep in the spare room of her apartment when he is drinking. Girl and Boy move to a new city. Girl gets a more senior job than boy. Girl rents the apartment boy wants in her name. . Girl works long hours and learns a lot at work. Boy asks what is for dinner, even when she is in a meeting or a class. Boy gets angry when there is no food in the house (no food here means nothing cooked for and served to him) Girl becomes more anxious and spends spare time in the gym. Boy dictates what food is eaten in the house and during outings. Girl is not allowed to be vegetarian. Boy’s drinking gets worse. Boy will take Girl’s money and leave her to walk home after nights out. Girl gets used to calling Boy’s father to calm him down when she is allowed back in the house. Every time. Girl gets used to continuously being insulted. Boy doesn’t even have to drink to do it any more. Girl starts wearing flip-flops all the time so it’s more comfortable to walk home. Boy gets very drunk. Boy pushes girl into a wall and uses her to break a tap off the wall. Boy starts pinning girl up again the wall or pushing her around when he is angry, which is becoming more frequently. Girl sleeps in the spare room. Girl wakes up in considerable pain and cleans up the water that has flooded the downstairs with the help of neighbors. Boy sleeps it off before asking where his coffee and breakfast are. Girl struggles to teach because she is in pain. Boy waits for dinner to be cooked for him. Girl reattaches tiles to the wall that have fallen off due to the water damage. Boy goes out. Girl is questioned at work why she is in pain. Girl doesn’t tell. Boy decides to go out with girl. Boy drinks. Boy leaves girl to walk home. Girl spends her weekends cooking, cleaning and buying whatever is needed for the house. Boy will not put washing on unless he is very loudly applauded for doing so. Boy will not let girl leave the house if he doesn’t want her to. Boy gives girl time limits on how long to be out for. Boy uses various tactics to make sure girl doesn’t leave. Boy throws himself down the stairs so he can say girl pushed him. Boy hides girl’s key. Boy stands outside holding the door handle closed. Boy hides girl’s phone/money/important work items. Boy follows girl. Boy bombards girl with messages. Girl spends time napping at work because she is tired. Boy continues drinking, shouting at and criticizing girl. Girl’s work suffers more from tiredness and anxiety. Girl believes everyone thinks she is worthless too. Girl can’t leave because no one will want her. Boy and girl go out to girl’s work (girl is not allowed to go alone). Boy gets drunk, girl drinks too. Girl invites people back to her apartment. Boy gets angry and walks off. People come back to the apartment. People leave the apartment. Boy tells girl she is worthless and punches her in the face. Girl loses her glasses which are now broken. Boy backhands girl across the face. This is the trigger for girl. She calls her parents on the other side of the world. She sends picture of her bleeding and bruised face to parents. Girl calls a work colleague. Girl takes her stuff with lots of fighting from boy and collects the rest from outside where boy has thrown it,. Girl buys make up to cover her bruises. Girl hands in her notice. Boy cooks pasta with cheese and starts drinking. Girl spends her birthday in a state of panic that she will do something wrong and be in trouble again. Boy refuses to move out. Girl sleeps in the spare room. Boy takes the lock off the spare room door. Girl stops sleeping as boy comes into the room whenever he wants. Boy alternates between telling girl she will never get away from him and she is the worst piece of scum he has ever known that no one could love. Boy still expects girl to bring him food. Boy starts waiting until late at night when he expects girl to be asleep and climbs into her bed. Girl sleeps on the sofa. Girl spends time organizing replacement of water damaged floor boards. Boy tells girl she has to start spending time in his bed or he will make her. Boy tries to hug or cuddle girl. Girl spends as much time as possible out of the house. Boy continues to turn up at places that girl goes to. Boy expects girl will walk with him to work and give him a goodbye kiss. Girl books flights and find job to get away. Boy hands in his notice. By finds the job in girl’s emails. Boy applies for the same job. Boy tells girl he has an interview. Girl’s parent’s come to the country. Girl leaves boy. Boy continues to contact girl by phone and email. Girl blocks boy’s number and email. Boy uses a different number to contact her. Girl blocks the next number. Boy contacts girl’s friends to get in contact. Girl apologizes to friends. Boy uses email to get in contact with girl’s family. Girl apologizes to family. Boy makes fake account on social media using girls email address then adds himself as friend. Girl emails social media sites to have them taken down.
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Bree
2/19/2020 07:02:27 am
Seeing it all laid out like that, I had no idea how bad it was. I'm so happy that you got out. Never forget that there are good people who love you, and that you are deserving of that love.
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